Originally Published in the “Opinion” page of The Herald-Zeitung, December 14-15, 2024 Pp. A-5 and 7.
One of our most popular American poets, Billy Collins, wrote a poem entitled “On Turning Ten.” In it, the voice that animates the poem feels as if something important in life is ending as they move to double digits in marking their age. Some threshold is crossed which the poem likens to “a kind of measles of the spirit, /mumps of the psyche, /a disfiguring chicken pox of the soul.”
These alarming images may also be present when a person, a race, a class of people, loses their dignity. Dignity can be stolen from them by others if those whose dignity is at risk have no means of defending themselves.
Its etymology is telling: From the Latin, Dignitas, it means worthiness and prestige (Wikipedia). Dignity also carries qualities of “being worthy of honor and respect.” Taking a person or a class of people’s self-respect from them is an act of emotional violence. Those who suffer from such an attack try to recover from such a trauma, often with mixed success. The wound runs deep and can traverse generations.
Difference, in some circles, is reason enough for creating a group or a person as undignified.
I sense that dignity is an essential quality in the cultural curriculum we are all exposed to by leaders. Or have they too sidelined dignity as an SOS—a Soulful Operating System?
We are familiar with the phrase, “beneath one’s dignity.” What is it that inhabits the “beneath” space? Cruelty, lawlessness, grasping and clinging to all one can amass in the service of one’s own agenda can be one option. Authoritarian impulses in any form would seem to quash dignity and replace it with “unworthy.” Now what was once beneath is now blatantly on the surface to interrupt the spirit of integrity, a quality sharing kinship with dignity. Both have kinships with democracy.
The etymology of Democracy is formed of two Greek words: demos means “of the people “and kratos means “power or rule.” Democracy not only leaves a place for the dignity of a people but insists on it. Democracy and Dignitas are like mirrors of one another.
Without a sense of dignity as an active agent, those in a democracy fragment, split and shatter into parts, devoid of a sense of wholeness. Threats to the populace, instilling fear in its citizens, or cultivating an atmosphere of distrust and resentment collapse the spirit that animates and energizes democracy.
On the other hand, qualities of kindness cultivate a feeling of wholeness, courtesy (from the French coeur, meaning heart) promotes the integrity of self and self in relation to others. Blessings create feelings of unity, or a common shared ethos that allows the dignity of individuals to flourish.
As a teacher of more than 55 years that encompassed elementary special education students, high school students, undergraduate and graduate students on the Masters and Doctoral levels, I discovered how important it was to make space for the dignity of each student’s ideas, hunches, insights, and even resistances to what was being taught, as we all struggled to deepen the appeal of our subject.
Most important for me was to create a learning field so no student would feel their inherent dignity was questioned or worse, under attack. Then they felt the true spirit of democracy that allowed them to speak up, to speak out because their questions or assertions were dignified.